A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically successful kids. They wonder what these parents do to produce so many math whizzes and music prodigies, what it’s like inside the family, and whether they could do it too. Well, I can tell them, because I’ve done it. Here are some things my daughters, Sophia and Louisa, were never allowed to do:
- have a playdate
- attend a sleepover
- be in a school play
- complain about not being in a school play
- watch TV or play computer games
- choose their own extracurricular activities
- get any grade less than an A
- not be the No. 1 student in every subject except gym and drama
- play any instrument other than the piano or violin
- not play the piano or violin.
Source: Wall Street Journal
Reinforcement of this model minority stereotype is a significant risk factor for depression in Asian-American and Asian-Canadian youth and young adults, particularly among Asian-American women ages 15-24 who have the highest suicide rate among women of any race of that age group.
Do you have an Asian mother like Amy Chua? Thoughts?
EDIT: For anyone wondering, the writer, Amy Chua, is actually 2nd generation, born in Champaign, Illinois and later raised in West Lafayette, Indiana and Berkeley, California. She is currently a professor at Yale Law School.